Skill to Fill: The difference between “relief” and real fulfilment

You can have the best intentions in the world and still end up doing the same things on repeat. Grab the junk food on the way home. Scroll for an ho...

Will to Fill: The part of the Cup that gets you out of bed

If you’ve been following along with the Cups, you already know the basics: each Cup represents a need. Safety. Connection. Freedom. Mastery. Fun. Th...

Fun Cup: The need we forget to take seriously

A lot of adults treat fun like dessert. Nice if you’ve earned it. Easy to skip if you’re busy. Slightly embarrassing to admit you want it. But the F...

Mastery Cup: The need that wants things done properly

Some people can leave a half-finished job and think, “I might get back to that later” Other people can  feel  the half-finished job from three rooms...

Freedom Cup: The need that hates being told what to do

Some people hear the word “freedom” and think skydiving, quitting your job, selling everything, moving to Bali. And sure, for a few people, that’s p...

Connection Cup: The need that disappears when it’s met

Have you noticed how you only really  think  about connection when it’s missing? When your Connection Cup is full, life just… feels good. You feel s...

Safety Cup: The need you can’t “mind over matter”

Most of us like to believe we’re fine. That we can push through. That we can “just get on with it”. And sometimes we can… until we can’t. That’s bec...

You can’t pour from an empty Cup… but which Cup is empty?

Most of us have heard the phrase  “you can’t pour from an empty cup.” It’s simple. It’s true. And it’s also… not very helpful at 7:42am when the kid...

Let's get to know the Safety Cup®

We’re reframing sleep hygiene as sleep fitness. *Why?* Because like physical fitness, quality sleep requires ongoing training, intention, and practic...

Filling the Connection Cup

Let’s get to know the Connection Cup* In the Phoenix Cups framework, the Connection Cup represents our need to belong, to feel seen, valued, and safe ...

Putting the "Quiet Quitting" Vs "Quiet Firing" War to Rest!

In this post-Covid world there is a battle going on, and one that we have been watching escalate.  It's the battle between the employer and the employ...

"I can do it!"

Teaching your toddler self-help skills, because they CAN do it. It’s Monday morning, you’re running even later than usual. The morning has been a come...

Grow Yourself, Grow your Business

What if I told you that this idea of putting your business before yourself can not only lead to serious burnout but can actually harm your business?...

The perfect storm that creates arguments over Toilet Paper

A 2 minute read by Sandi Phoenix I'm going to attempt to demystify some of the behaviours we're seeing during these unusual times by explaining how...

Cup filling as a kid

At 11 years of age its easy to fill most of my Cups. Here’s how I fill mine. *MASTERY*: I can fill my Mastery Cup by taking care of pets and having...

Is your child attention seeking or connection seeking?

"She's just attention seeking, ignore her." Thanks Super Nanny. You had one job. Despite what the TV personality says, children are human, and human...

He's Just that Into You!

“He is just so needy.” Jane says, chasing a cherry tomato around her plate with a fork. “I mean, he either messages me five minutes after leaving the ...

Work / life balance or empty Cups?

Honey light filters through the windscreen and warms Mary’s white knuckles that cling to the steering wheel. Sitting out front of the office where s...